dinner dilemmas: solved.


one problem i have had with my boys for sometime now, one in particular, is with dinnertime. it doesn’t matter what i make, even if it is his very favorite food, he throws a tantrum. besides being that time of day when the kids just seem to get rambunktous and i can’t wait for the hubbie to come home an rescue me, i know that he is throwing these tantrums just to fight me. and lately these tantrums have turned into hour long screaming fits and throwing food up in the air. i had had it!


so when i have problems like these, and am not quite sure what to do, i always turn to my friend Faye. do you remember when she guest posted on my blog a while back? she is wonderful. and is now starting here own website. anyways, she told me to make a weekly dinner chart and write down what was for dinner every night of the week. that way there would be no surprises to the kiddies.


so i did, and posted it on the fridge. each kid gets to pick the menu for one night of the week, the hubbie and i get to pick the rest. i told the kids that if they complain about what we are having they would not get to pick the menu on their night the next week. seems so simple, but it totally worked. and now we are going on three weeks, tantrum free. now, why couldn’t i think of that! (i do have to tell you, that these tantrums then shifted to breakfast time. but they have quickly been resolved. and that will be another story.)


btw: i have loved these Food Face plates for the longest time. just had to post them. click here for where to get them.

back to school: questions answered part 3.

Q: My daughter is 4-1/2, and misses the Kindergarden cut off for this year. We can not afford preschool and I am wondering the best way to plan to help her not be bored at home. We are always having play dates etc, but are there specific work books, activities I should be doing to prepare her better for kindergarden? She does know all letters, numbers and is starting to learn sight words….what else should I be doing?

A: “In trying to select the best learning experiences for children, parents often forget that the best resource is self. With an infectious attitude of curiosity and adventure, just about any interaction with your child will prepare them to thrive in school. A defining characteristic of successful children is keen awareness. In addition to being aware of what is seen, heard, touched, smelt, and tasted , include the skill of being aware of what is emotionally felt.

 

• Going to the park provides a chance to imagine the world through listening. Ask your child to close their eyes and describe five things he/she hears. Ask which sounds are new from the week before. ( fire engines, parent shouting, baby crying).


• Cooking together means the chance to play a fun guessing game. Blindfold child to guess foods and spices by smell. (Oranges are easy, cinnamon and nutmeg is a bit harder). In time the child will be able to guess what is cooking for dinner solely through the fragrance in the air.

• A fight with little brother is a chance to reflect and teach feeling words, “You are angry and disappointed that Billy took the last cookie.” ” How did it make you feel, when Billy gave you his last candy?

 


• A trip to the petting zoo is a chance to compare the feel of the goat’s fur with that of the sheep. Cleaning your child’s room together is a chance to touch and name things by how they feel. ” This table top is very smooth. This wood carving is rough. Your favorite toy is soft and furry.” ” What does this feel to you?”

 


Know your worth; take time and effort to invest in yourself (sleep, alone time, and date night) so that you can be fully present during selected interactions with your child. Rather than insisting to have more of your time, your child will most likely be quite content to work and play happily on their own after feeling heard, seen, and respected by his most important teacher- you. “

 

~ Faye Georgette Yee M.A. Education, M.S. Family Counseling
 
Have a back-to-school or school related question for Faye? Leave a comment below. Or, if you would like to learn more about Faye or have a question to ask her, click here.

back to school: questions answered part 2.

wow, we have received some great questions! keep them coming!

Q: my daughter (age 7 – Grade 3) is stronger in her math skills and weaker in reading/writing. This year she is supposed to read 20-30 minutes daily. While she enjoys math-related homework, it can be frustrating to try to get her to read a longer (chapter book) by herself. I’d love to hear your thoughts on motivation techniques or recommendations on a specific series of books that she might enjoy…”

A: By honoring how your daughter feels about reading, you allow her to move ahead at her own pace without guilt or stress. You are a wise parent to be concerned about beginning where she is, rather than to focus upon where she is supposed to be.

To establish a base line confidence level, begin by providing reading material below or slightly below her present grade level. Read along with your daughter daily for the first 15 minutes, concentrating on character development and story line rather than upon word recognition. Discuss what she predicts will happen or changes she would make if she could. Then give her the last 5 to 10 minutes to read alone. Use a timer to signal that reading time is over, lights out. Reading is a privilege not a chore or a task. Hopefully she will wish for more time and make good use of learning oportunities which would allow her to read far into the night all by herself.

Your daugther may enjoy reading and solving math story problems. Students who have a gift for numbers and pattern recognition, are able to enhance possible weaker reading and writing skills by creating and writing math story problems to share with instructor and classmates.

For a useful website on finding books perfect for your child, click here.
~ Faye Georgette Yee M.A. Education, M.S. Family Counseling

i personally loved the Ramona series of books by Beverly Cleary when i was little. i read them over, and over!

have a back-to-school or school related question for Faye? leave a comment below. if you would like to learn more about Faye or if you have a question to ask her, click here.

back to school: questions answered part 1.

with back-to-school around the corner, i thought it would be wonderful for Faye to answer some school related questions. i don’t know about you, but i am always trying to figure out the best way for my child to thrive in school. and i sometimes am not sure what is the best way to communicate with the teachers and principal. so, as part of my back-to-school series, Faye will be answering some questions that i feel are important to starting back to school.

Q: i want to make sure that my child is not “pre-labeled” with his new teacher. how much information about my child should i tell the teacher during the first few weeks of school?

A: school is a place for your child to safely explore, test, and identify new and exciting aspects of self. allow your child to decide what information about themselves they feel comfortable in sharing with the teacher and classmates. very young children convey information about themselves very effectively through body language. the information a teacher gains from being with your child during the first month of school is the foundation used to design academic and socialization techniques customized to best reach and teach your child. teachers are trained not to rely only upon first impressions, and fully understand that learning about your child is a wonderful year long adventure. if there are special needs, the school must be informed well in advance so that the teacher and room are prepared prior to your child’s first day at school.
~ Faye Georgette Yee M.A. Education, M.S. Family Counseling

have a back-to-school or school related question for Faye? leave a comment below. if you would like to learn more about Faye or if you have a question to ask her, click here.

please meet Faye.

as a parent, i am constantly worried that i am doing what is best for my kiddies. a lot of times it is trial and error, sometimes i go to others for advise. one person i have come to trust and use as a mentor/counselor is Faye Georgette Yee M.A. Education, M.S. Family Counseling. she has been helping me with my oldest son for a couple years now. helping me to see the world through his eyes and knowing how to handle difficult areas in his life. the advice i have received from her has been wonderful, and i might say, priceless. it has help our family to grow and function productively, happily and peacefully.

here is a brief background of Faye Georgette Yee M.A. Education, M.S. Family Counseling:

Born and raised in San Francisco Bay Area
Elementary school instructor – Hawaii, Washington, California
Gifted Education advisor – Orange County, CA.
Relief Society President – woman’s church organization – America and Asia
Assistant Curator of Education- Bowers Museum of Cultural Arts, Orange County.
Education and Family consultant for corporate families. American, British, Australian, and French International schools.
Intermediate and high school counselor – Orange County, California
Mother of three adult children and grandmother of three little ones.
Areas of focus:

Early identification and nurturing of innate gifts and talents
Effective parent /child communications
The importance of understanding the language of play.

“parents of young children deserve the best information available. with my experience and a strong network of creditable resources, i seek to provide guidance in areas which may be confusing or frustrating. i wish to help parents prepare their children to become wise and confident decision-makers as they negotiate into an expanding and sometimes confusing world of choices.”


if you would like to ask Faye a question regarding your child, leave a comment below or email me. she will be answering them, and i will be posting them throughout the rest of this month. and i hope to have her as a regular guest on this blog as well. i just cannot tell you enough how wonderful she has been in helping out our family. thank you Faye.